More than anything, I wish abortion supporters knew that we love them.
Yes, we love the babies we are trying to protect. But we love the moms too. Our movement is founded on and infused with love and respect for all life, including yours.
Whether you have had an abortion, thought about it, or support the legal right to it, we love you.
I wish you fully understood our side of the story. I wish you could see yourselves with the loving eyes thru which we see you.
I wish you really heard what we are saying, and what we hear when you speak.
I think sometimes the fact that you don’t is our own fault. Sometimes we become so passionate about the tiny little helpless ones that our passion comes out in ways that are less than becoming. Or as is so often the case whatever the topic, big or small, passion is often interpreted as anger or hate. But it’s not. I promise you that.
I am passionate about saving babies. But I am also passionate about loving everyone involved, the best that I can, the best way I know how. I wish you knew that.
I wish you knew that when you tell us abortion should be readily available because many of those children would otherwise be born into poverty, that we believe being poor doesn’t make you less worthy of life, that wealth doesn’t make your life any better. We don’t believe poverty, or the possibility of poverty, should equal a death sentence for anyone.
I wish you knew that when you tell us abortion should be readily available because many of those children would otherwise be born into abuse situations, that while it also breaks our hearts, we also believe people can rise above abuse situations, can break the cycle, can live wonderfully fulfilling lives past terrible periods in their lives, have value, can lead happy lives, and can make the world a better place. We don’t believe abuse, or the possibility of abuse, should equal a death sentence for anyone.
I wish you knew that when you tell us abortion should be readily available because many of those children would otherwise be born into neglect, that we believe those children deserve a chance to overcome their beginnings, and that we believe a neglected child can grow into an amazing influential person that can change this world for the better. We believe that child can teach every one of us how to be better parents, better people. We don’t believe neglect, or the possibility of neglect, should equal a death sentence for anyone.
I wish you knew that when you tell us a woman shouldn’t be forced to have a baby because she can’t handle being a mother right now, that we don’t believe you. We don’t believe she is too weak or incapable. We believe that she is strong, she is capable, she can do this. We believe in every woman and her ability to do hard things and come out better for it.
I wish you knew that when you tell us a woman shouldn’t have to put her career on hold because of a baby, that we agree with you. But we hold accountable those who are guilty of pregnancy and maternal discrimination in the workplace, not the innocent life she is considering ending. We believe that baby is evidence of and a reason for fighting workplace discrimination, not an inconvenience to be discarded. We believe working women can fight the fight, do hard things, be a mom, and have a successful career.
I wish you knew when you tell us that baby probably won’t be loved, that we don’t believe you. We believe everyone, if given the chance, will experience love in their lifetime. Because someone is not feeling loved right now does not mean they will never be loved. Beyond that, we believe our Creator loves each and every one of us more than we can imagine. Each and every baby is loved. We believe everyone deserves the chance to feel love, even if it’s not right now. We believe that not feeling loved, or the possibility of not experiencing love right away, shouldn’t equal a death sentence for anyone.
I wish you knew that when we say we think abortion clinics should be held to higher medical standards, we say it out of love. Things like doorways wide enough for an ambulance gurney to fit, at least one doctor with admitting privileges at a local hospital, well, we believe these are safety issues for anyone having any type of surgery. What we’re trying to say is that if you do decide to go thru with the abortion, we at least want you to come out alive & well. We believe that making a choice we disagree with shouldn’t come with a heightened risk of medical complications, just to make it easier or cheaper. We value your life more than convenience or money.
I wish you knew how much we loved you and how much we want good things for you.
And yes, for your baby too.